When I was younger I spent my summers volunteering as a camp counselor for Kindergarteners and when we went on these night hikes the little boys that would puff out their chests during the day, clung onto me like no tomorrow. Always making sure I wore a loose sweatshirt, little hands would pull my sweater in twenty different directions as we waddled our way down the dark path.
Since I’ve been in my 20’s I feel like that sweatshirt; worn out, wore down, and pulled in as many directions as humanly possible.
College is like the vacation before real life. You are in this bubble that allows you all the perks of being an adult without any of the responsibility. Then, upon graduation, the bubble pops and it feels like a wave of options, opportunities, and responsibilities hit you like a ton of bricks. Hundreds of paths open that each come with their own set of warranted or unwarranted advice.
You want to get what you want, when you want it. The question is, how? There’s a lot of information out there about what you’re supposed to be doing after college, how to get your life together, how to be successful—basically Adulting 101. This information is not only online but given through friends, parents, and colleagues. Under the guise of advice, words are thrown out like you should be doing this or when are you going to get on that.
You feel as if your brain is in information overload at all times. Constantly feeling pulled in multiple directions, you’re left in a state of overwhelm because deep down maybe you’re afraid you’re going to mess it up by making the wrong decision or choosing the wrong thing.
Here’s the thing about feeling like you’re making the wrong decision: It will never be wrong if it feels right to you. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else and are able to support yourself financially—you do you.
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.”
- Deepak Chopra
Do what feels right to you because you are walking down your own path on your own journey, nobody else’s.
We are the center of our own universe. We all have a journey to take in this lifetime that is unique to each individual, so why let someone else make the decisions for you? You are the most powerful force in your life.
While that can feel daunting because you want to make sure you’re do the right thing—who says you’re doing the wrong thing by choosing something different? If it feels right to you, then you’re doing the right thing. Even if your decision turns out to be unsuccessful or does not work out like you had hoped, you made the right decision because you did what was right for you at the time and it got you one step closer to figuring it all out.
You hold all the cards in your own life. So let’s bet on ourselves.