How to Use the Law of Attraction for People with Anxiety
“If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten”
- Anthony Robbins
I always loved the idea of the Law of Attraction and all the positive, warm fuzzy goodness that comes with it, but there was always one big concern that placed a seed of doubt in my mind. What about people who deal with daily anxiety and depression?
I always felt a little left out of the Law of Attraction party, feeling as though the power of this phenomenon was not available to me but there’s space for us too to harness the power of the Law of Attraction, we just have to adjust the law to us, not the other way around.
How is that possible?
We are going to commit to the following:
Small steps, but steps forward. Being kind, not perfect. Working hard, in our own timeline.
Every day, for ourselves, to create the life that we have always wanted and undoubtedly deserve.
Are you ready?
So first of all, what is the Law of Attraction?
Imagine that you are a human energy magnet. The Law of Attraction is the notion that the energy we give out—whether that be love, hate, positivity, negativity—will be the energy that we receive. The vibrational energy that we give off is the same that we receive.
The reasoning behind this stems from Newton’s 3rd Law:
For every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction.
Simply put, like attracts like. Whatever notion or thought that we put into the world manifests itself into our reality. Thoughts become things essentially.
Everything that has ever been created was an idea or thought to begin with. A house that you live in was once a blueprint that existed on in the mind of someone else. The table that you eat on was created centuries ago by someone else who had an idea of placing a wooden plank on four stools. The life that you are currently living was created through the thoughts, feelings, and actions you have taken until now.
So how can we move our energy in a way so that it is in alignment with the life that we want to be living?
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.” - Margaret Thatcher
How to Apply the Law of Attraction to Your Life
part 1. thoughts
My anxiety is usually triggered by thoughts so this was always the part that made the Law of Attraction feel impossible.
My thoughts used to be one of the most volatile aspects of my anxiety—it made me feel like I was going insane from constant, berating voices trying to talk over one another. So from my understanding, if the thoughts that I sent out into the world would bring back the same vibrational energy according to Law of Attraction. , I was royally screwed.
So how did I turn this around?
Through Understanding, Accepting, and Reframing.
Anxiety or not, we all have a natural negativity bias. This negativity bias means that we are more sensitive to negative stimulants—they stick in our mind, rock our boat, and will consume us if we let it. We hone in on that one bad experience out of a hundred positive ones, playing it on repeat as if we are constantly punching ourselves in the face with our misfortune.
This served a great purpose in the early days of our existence to sense danger or threat, but these days it just means a lot of us ruminate on our bad luck. So if your anxiety has you dwelling on the negative, it is completely natural. We evolved to do so for our own survival. So please, stop hating on yourself for doing something that we were born to do.
While we can understand that it is natural, it does not mean we have to surrender to our negative thought pattern. We have the power to retrain our brain and go against our hardwired negativity bias. [More about this (here) ]
Anxiety for everyone is different. We experience different symptoms, seek different methods of help, and all have different circumstances. It can make you feel trapped within yourself, as if your whole identity has been swallowed by a condition.
But you are not your anxiety.
It is a part of you (maybe even a large part).
But it is not who you are.
You are so much more.
While anxiety can make it extremely difficult to live our lives in the way we desire, we are not damaged, broken, or limited. We can try our best every day, which will change daily depending on how we feel, and free ourselves from self-imposed limitations.
We have anxiety. But that does not make us any less capable of creating the life we deserve.
So maybe you’re thinking something along the lines of this:
“Okay so from my understanding, we have to constantly send out positive thoughts for us to receive positive energy. How the eff am I supposed to do that all the time? Do you even know how anxiety works?”
Yes, I admit always having positive thoughts sounds laughable. Why? Because it is impossible. We cannot constantly feel one emotion or have all our thoughts go in one direction. But what we can do is practice the power of positive thinking.
How can we do this? First, reframe the question.
Turn: “How do I consistently send out positive thoughts?”
Into: “How can I practice positive thinking?” [I wrote more about this topic (here) ]
That way we do not push ourselves to stay in one lane of thinking, which can make us a feel a crapload of pressure and stress. Instead we commit to practicing how to be positive thinker and acknowledge that we have the power. We cannot control our thoughts but we can manage and influence our way of thinking.
Negative thought: “You are ugly and worthless. No one will ever love you because you f*ck everything up.”
Response: Okay. That is a thought I had, but I do not mean it. It’s not true and therefore I choose not to resonate with it.
By taking a moment to pause and access your thoughts instead of allowing them to just occur, we become the observer of our thoughts. By treating our thoughts like a third-party we take the power from our mind and put it back into the hands of ourselves.
The thoughts that we have are not representations of who we are. We have the power to redirect our thoughts in a way that aligns with what we truly believe.
Part 2. Feelings
So maybe at this point you’re thinking “Okay, so in order for the Law of Attraction to work, if I want to attract positive energy I have to feel positive all the time?”
Seems almost ridiculous but stay with me. The short answer is no. We have twenty-seven emotions and it would be a shame if we only used one of them for the rest of our lives.
The Law of Attraction does not require that we only feel one way all the time, but to constantly practice and realign our feelings in the direction that we want the energy to flow. So if we want to attract to attract love, then we must embody feelings of love with our whole being in both receiving, giving, and feeling love.
But how do we constantly keep our feelings in alignment with the life that we want to create when sh*t happens?
This is the 3-step system that I have developed and that has worked for me for the past year. While these are the steps I take to work through my intense waves of emotions that I get from anxiety, this can be applicable to anyone regardless of their situation or condition.
Step 1 | Give Yourself Permission
There was a period in my life where I didn’t really allow myself to feel. At the time I had school work, a job, and other everyday tasks I needed to complete and I believed that if I allowed myself to get too emotional, it would deter my productivity.
Now I realize that it would have been much better for my emotional well-being to give myself permission to feel whatever I wanted and to express that emotion fully within a time frame.
My concern was always that I would get caught up in the emotions and allow them to consume all my time. But if we put a timer on it, then this prevents that.
What do I mean? Pick a song, any song. And for the duration of the song, allow yourself to express your emotion in full.
If you are angry, give yourself permission to be completely 110% angry for 2-minutes and 30 seconds. Or 3-minutes and 20 seconds. However long the song lasts. Take this opportunity to get it all out there—swear, hit a pillow, scream, pace—whatever form your emotions take, allow it to just be.
Then, after the song is over, take a moment to process and access.
Step 2 | Process and Access
So we may have said (screamed) a lot of things during that 2-minutes and 30 seconds. Now is the time to process and access what just happened.
Some of the things that we said in the heat of the moment, maybe we realize “Oh, we don’t really mean that” and we just throw that sentence(s) away. Then maybe some other things we really do mean. Maybe we do have an issue with so and so and we need to take some time out and think about it. This allows us to express our emotions in full and then sort our thoughts into productive and non-productive categories.
Step 3 | recenter
After we release and assess, we can then recenter ourselves with our true purpose and positive energy.
“I may still be angry, but I am still optimistic about [blank]. I am still grateful for [blank]. I still believe I have the power to acquire [blank].”
Sometimes we all just need to take a moment and get all our emotions out there. Just to let ourselves be heard, to have an outlet for self-expression. And then once we give ourselves permission to do that in a limited time frame, we can take a step back and assess our true thoughts and feelings. This allows us to release the tension and recenter ourselves in a way that is in alignment with our purpose and the energy that we want to attract.
Part 3. Actions
If you or anyone you know deals with anxiety, it can produce a mind-boggling amount of symptoms. It can make you feel dizzy, nauseous, give you migraines, headaches, indigestion, acid reflux, and so many others.
Accompany that along with fear, whether it be an overarching fear or specific fears, our anxiety can serve as the roadblock to doing a lot of things. There was a period in my life where I allowed these roadblocks to influence the way I lived my life. I thought “Well, this is how it has to be because I have anxiety.” But that was the biggest lie I have ever allowed myself to believe.
So how do we move those roadblocks aside?
First, we have to change our limiting beliefs.
It’s not “I don’t have [X], so I can’t have [Y]”
It’s “This is what I have, now what I can do with it? What can I make from this?”
Do not let your anxiety define your limitations or tell you what you do and do not deserve out of life. You are worthy of love, success, recognition, happiness, joy, and anything else you desire. You are capable of traveling the world, winning that Nobel prize, and finding a cure.
You are not your anxiety. It may be a large part of you but it is not all of you. It does not make you any less capable of being able to create the life you want. You may just need to break your goals down into smaller pieces that are easier for you to digest.
For example, let’s say that you want to be a news reporter.
But that involves a high-paced working environment with a lot of stimulants, constant human interaction, long work hours, and deadlines.
All of which you feel you are not ready for at this point. And that’s okay. Let’s start by breaking down the goal.
Your overall goal is to be a news reporter, but your current goal could be to learn how to write.
So you commit to writing about any topic for 10-minutes a day. If you want to take this a step further, you can take an online class which allows you to further your knowledge but within your the comfort of your own space. Or you could take a class at your local community college--these classes are smaller in size usually about 30 people which could get you comfortable interacting with others on a smaller scale. Once you feel comfortable doing either or both of those things, you could get a certification in journalism. There are many across the U.S., usually takes about a year to complete both in-person and online. Then when you feel comfortable you could start to create your writing portfolio.
All of these steps, any of these steps is progress.
No matter if it’s a step forward, half a step forward, or a slight scooch.
And that’s amazing.
You have everything you need to have a great day, every day.
So what kind of day are you going to have?